This is the first morning I tried it. 3AM Solo Dance Party in the Bathroom!
Flinging my head back and forth to Daft Punk and Pharrell's Get Lucky song, the movement broke thru the pulsing pain in my head, shattering the cocoon of non-movement I have existed in for years. The beats drew me to loosen my neck muscles and relieve the painful crunching in my joints thru a dance so passionate and explosive that one song led to the next. From varied upbeat songs like Safe and Sound by Capital Cities to Queen Latifah's U.N.IT.Y., I found myself sweating and surging pain out of my fingers, my hips, my shoulders, joints and lips. I was lip syncing the hits like I was putting on the best show of my life and I owned those words with the funk of a legend.
This is the first morning, that I shook my tail feather like nobody's business with a ferocity and managed not to slice thru the silence of the wee morning. The fact that my husband is still sleeping peacefully while I'm having a dance blast 10 feet away in the bathroom must attest to my skills as a terrific dancer... or terrific mime dancer. Either way, I'm grateful for this early morning breakthrough and better get hopping on tomorrow's dance playlist.
Here's the hits I bounced to this morning:
Lose yourself to Dance by Daft Punk
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Z_Sf0gi-mGI
From the Night by Stars
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Dr5VE3ogdl8
Get Lucky by Daft Punk
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=h5EofwRzit0
Safe and Sound by Capital Cities
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=47dtFZ8CFo8
Happy Idiot by TV on the Radio
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=OaKVy-FlaUA
Come get it Bae- Pharrell
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=UfGMj10wOzg
U.N.I.T.Y by Queen Latifah
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=f8cHxydDb7o
This playlist can be found here --> 3AM Solo Dance Party Playlist- Tea Angel.
I will regularly add new music so let me know if there is something you think would be great to bounce to at 3am.
I'm looking forward to seeing where this new routine might lead. Waking up in pain every morning is bonkers and I'm going see if an extra early morning workout is just what my body crazily enough needs.
It's a tough life, living in pain. It's tough on the body, tough on my family, tough on my nerves, tough on my patience. Pain is such a pain in the ass or as defined below:
-Pain is an unpleasant sensory and emotional experience associated with actual or potential tissue damage-
Pain keeps me isolated. Pain keeps me alone. When I see how my pain looks thru the eyes of my children, I know it's out there- like a giant monster devouring their mother alive everyday. And the epic challenge for my husband to witness my chronic pain may have been addressed in our marriage vows, but damn, it sucks. Pain is clearly an obvious deterrent to our happy goals in life.
But will pain stop me?
No, my mind can fly to the highest alps, travel to the far reaches of space, but the one thing it can not do, is teleport a friend to come visit. And so pain for me feels lonely. When I'm in pain, I isolate myself. When I'm in pain, I say I'm protecting my friends from the helpless anguish of seeing me in pain and so I isolate myself. I isolate myself. And it sucks. I miss my friends. I miss friends who could be here, even just visit once. I miss their smiles, their eyes, laughter and experiences. I miss sharing in their joys and celebrating their accomplishments with them. I miss the freedom of visiting my friends, to be able to see clearly and feel free driving on the open road. I miss the liberating freedom that comes from being a friend to someone else.
Loneliness is far more painful than pain for me. Pain has been a part of my life for 17 years with Lupus and I've watched it shred my friendships and my heart with these long periods of pain and (and often self imposed) isolation.
I see the pattern and it needs to change.
When I'm in pain, I isolate myself. When I'm in pain and isolate myself, loneliness creeps in.
When I'm in pain and lonely, I get nervous, don't eat and isolate myself.
BUT...
Pain just met a formidable opponent in me.
When I'm in pain, hugs are a life force for me- love makes pain disappear in the moment and I'm so grateful my family blesses me with loads of hugs everyday.
Yep, I think I need more hugs.
When I'm in pain, my days are spent focusing on minimizing it's influence on my day, and when my family and I are positive, at least I'm laughing in little bits thru tough breathing spells.
I definitely need to keep positive and keep laughing.
When I'm in pain and I can't think of anything else but pain and my poor eating habits kick in and the lack of nutrients drains me more. I'm grateful for all my friends and family over the years who have guided me onto a healthier dietary path, and see that the next step for me may be seeking counseling to overcome my eating issues.
In order to come out from under the rock of pain and anxiety I am under, I will continue to search for help in healing.
So, the pattern that I've created isn't one that contains all the positive goals I have for my life. It will be a challenge, to change such a deeply ingrained pattern, but I'm up for it! I'm not content with isolation, not content with hurting myself or my loved ones. I may not be able to see well right now, my joints may crunch and lend me to limp, my lungs and my head may be hurting, but my heart works great and I'm still here for you my friends. I love life and am going to more open and receptive to all the support you all give me. I'm going to be that woman people refer to who healed her Lupus. I'm on my way.
